Music, Love, and Football

What is life like for a woman married to a musician? Not just any musician…one who leads a congregation of how many in worship? And my other one is…what hours of the day does your little boy drive your crazy and what do you do? And does he watch football? Love, Irene

A couple of weeks back I ask you all to share any questions you might have or ideas for future blogs. A few of you had suggestions, but Irene was the first to actually comment on my blog. So, she gets the first blog response. Woohoo! OK, not that exciting, but at least it gets me blogging.

To answer the first question; being married to a musician is pretty fantastic! You see, I’ve always been extremely attracted to a man who can sing and play an instrument. In fact, that was on my “list” of what I wanted in a man. Growing up I was encouraged to stand for what I believed in and what I wanted. Don’t let any one else’s opinions sway who you are. I was once told that it is perfectly fine to make a “list” or more like set certain standards and hold tightly to those when dating or thinking of dating a man. I had very high standards as a matter of fact. Turned a couple of guys down because they did not fit those standards. Only once did I lower those standards… but that’s a story for another day. Then came Kirk. I was at a point in my life where I did not want to date and just focus on my relationship with the Lord. I started attending a service geared towards the 18-29 age group and happened to see this beautiful man on stage singing with a guitar in his hands and knew I was in trouble. But that’s getting off topic, now isn’t it?!

My wonderful husband grew up with his dad making up a song for every little thing in life. Bath time, bed time, dinner time… you name it, his dad had a song for it. Kirk has definitely adopted that tradition. So, my wonderful hubby now sings songs for our little Eli. I swear it’s the sweetest thing in the world. I also get to hear his process of writing music. When its bare bones. I get to be apart of that process sometimes by giving my input. I also get to listen to his crazy morning warm ups before he sings. Which 99.9% of the time make me laugh hysterically. Elijah has now started to join in on the warm ups.

The other part of that question (pertaining to leading worship) well, that is pretty fantastic. I usually have to turn away from looking at him while he leads because it can be extremely distracting from the time of worship that I should be in. God have given me a beautiful gift in my husband that combines two of my favorite things in the world. Music and the love of my life. That alone causes me to worship my Lord and savior. I feel a sense of pride when he walks off of that stage to come sit with me. I sit just a little bit taller because I am proud of the man who God has made him to be. I love being able to sing along with him every week. I also feel that God has given him a very unique gift of disappearing and allowing people to see through him and focus on the Lord. Not every worship pastor can do that.

I think it’s pretty evident that I love being married to a musician/worship pastor. But he is much more than that. He is the best husband, father and friend anyone could ask for and that far overshadows the incredible musician he is.

Now, for the less mushy question about my precious little boy. I find that the times I have less patience with my little guy are when I don’t have my alone time with God. I know that sounds like the typical “righteous” answer, but I really know that’s a huge part of it. The other part being when I don’t get enough time with my husband/close girlfriends. Interaction with other people away from my motherly duties is a huge part of what I need in my life. I am an extrovert, therefore, I need time with others. I have realized that we as moms tend to put ourselves on the back-burner in order to take care of our families. It’s a natural inclination. I tried to ignore that part of myself for while and realized just how much it affected my parenting. So, I decided to make it a point, once a week, to get out and have me time. Whether it’s spent sleeping in, going to Starbucks to read, do my bible study or meet up with a friend, it’s time dedicated to me and only me. Thankfully my wonderful hubby has agreed to me needing that time so he blesses me by having a boys morning every Friday with Eli. My little guy needs me to be the best mommy I can be and my husband deserves the best wife. So in order to be those things, I need to be honest with where I am at and what I need. Elijah is a pretty good kid and very easy. I am blessed. But I will say, some nights just are not fun for me especially if he misses a nap. He’s not quite to that point where he can console himself and understand all of his feelings so he can sometimes go off the deep end, but that’s a 3-year-old, right?

The final question being, does he watch football? Well that would be a resounding yes! Thankfully both of our families are football fanatics so it’s been ingrained in both of us and you can bet that Eli will grow up with the same lifestyle. He yells out “Football!” and “Touchdown!” he likes to have the ball thrown at him, he pretends to catch it, then throws it down and runs at you to tackle you. Hopefully he’ll be our little football player. I will say though, that his love of sports is not just limited to football; he sits down and watched basketball with me (which Kirk doesn’t necessarily like, but allows me to watch be cause I love it so much.) Eli even yells out “Basketball!!’ and “Go Lakers!!” I am raising my kid right, that is for sure. 😉

So, I hope that I answered your questions. Probably more than you wanted to hear. Thanks for responding Irene. This was a lot of fun.


Beautiful Things

Music has definitely been a passion of mine since I was very young. I remember sitting in my Dad’s music room and listening to Pearl Jam, REM, Beatles, Dave Matthews… the list goes on. I remember driving in the car with my mom listening to “Oldies” on 104.7. Every family gathering, celebration, Sunday afternoons, homework time was surrounded by music.

As I was driving home the night I surrendered my life to the Lord, I turned on the Christian radio station and heard Paradigm by All Together Separate for the first time and I just felt like that God was trying to speak to me through it:

“Oh, I give my life to You
so I can gain it back again
Oh, I stand solid
while the paradigm is shifting”

I swear I listened to this song over and over for days.  I understood the reality of the choice I had just made. My life was about to be flipped upside down, shaken around and backwards in the best way possible.

Throughout my growth as a believer, I have always turned to music to help me stay focused. Most people need silence to study and do quiet times, but I needed my worship and praise music to help me concentrate and the words I was reading from His Word.

I married a man who is just as passionate about music as I am… probably more. I guess you would have to be if you’re going to be a Worship Pastor.

So in my never-ending quest to be able to share and communicate through blogging, I think I have finally figured out a way to be more consistent. I would love to share about the music that has touched my heart. Some stuff you may have heard over and over again and are tired of hearing about it. Some, you may be hearing for the first time. Either way, I want to share how I have been touched through the lyrics and music created by some very talented and wonderful people out there.

Which brings me to the video posted.

I was introduced to Gungor some time ago and immediately fell in love with their passion for God and their beautiful way of writing music. They are super unique and tell a story through their entire album. You can listen to their songs individually but if you have free time to just sit and listen to the album from beginning to end, I guarantee you will be amazed and have some beautiful time connecting to God. You can’t help it.

I chose this specific video so that you can read the lyrics as you hear this song. It’s called Beautiful Things… if you’ve listened to it, you’ll pick that up pretty quick. The reason I enjoy this song so much is because it reminds me of how we were created, what we once were and what God has in store for us. I think of our spiritual lives. The day we gave our lives to Him, it was like he brought us out of the dust and made us new again. Even though we don’t deserve it, He has chosen us. To bless us, because He loves us. They are very simple lyrics, but the first time I heard them, they struck me straight to my core.

I pray that you find a connection to this song and that the Lord speaks to you through it. Hopefully someone will hear this song today and realize that God loves them and wants to make them new in Him as well.

“All around
Hope is springing up from this old ground
Out of chaos life is being found in You.”